What I read, sites I recommend, people I like


S&M Fiction, Erotica and Reference

  • Macho Sluts, Public Sex, and Speaking Sex to Power: The Politics of Queer Sex by Patrick Califia
  • My Gender Workbook by Kate Bornstein
  • Consensual SM by Sybil Holiday
  • Screw the Roses, Give Me the Thorns: The Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism by Philip Miller and Molly Devon
  • Different Loving: The World of Sexual Dominance and Submission by Gloria Brame, William Brame and Jon Jacobs
  • Anything written or edited by Violet Blue, San Francisco-based sex and technology writer
  • Male Lust: Pleasure, Power and Transformation edited by Kerwin Kay, Jill Nagle and Baruch Gould

Gender, Feminist Politics, The Industry

  • Whores and Other Feminists edited by Jill Nagle
  • Live Sex Acts by Wendy Chapkis
  • Global Sex Workers edited by Kamala Kempadoo and Jo Doezema 
  • A Vindication of the Rights of Whores edited by Gail Pheterson 
  • Skin: Talking About Sex, Class & Literature and Trash by Dorothy Allison 
  • Women, Culture & Politics by Angela Y. Davis 
  • Yearning: race, gender and cultural politics by bell hooks
  • The Second Sex by Simone de Beauvoir
  • Orientalism by Edward Said

Auto/biographies, Memoirs, Journals

  • The Collected Diaries of Anais Nin
  • The Adderall Diares by Stephen Elliott
  • The Orton Diaries by Joe Orton
  • In Light of India by Octavio Paz
  • The Jaguar Smile by Salman Rushdie 
  • Fidel & Religion by Frei Betto
  • Assata by Assata Shakur
  • Dust Tracks on a Road by Zora Neale Hurston

General Fiction

  • The Lover by Marguerite Duras
  • The Fountainhead by Ayn Rand 
  • The Unbearable Lightness of Being by Milan Kundera 
  • The White Hotel by D.M. Thomas 
  • Their Eyes Were Watching God by Zora Neale 
  • House of Incest by Anais Nin
  • Midnight´s Children by Salman Rushdie
  • The Passion by Jeanette Winterson
  • Things Fall Apart by Chinua Achebe
  • Last Exit to Brooklyn by Herbert Selby Jr.

SM Resources on the Internet

  • Society of Janus - The website of this San Francisco-based SM organization features outstanding links and information for players of all experience levels. Highly recommended for new players looking to build a vocabulary, as well as kinksters who want to connect with a community. 
  • The Euilenspiegel Society - The oldest based leather organization in the US, this NYC-based organization hosts an informative site with great links and community resources for those on the East Coast. 
  • Good Vibrations The on-line home of my favorite, co-operatively owned erotic boutique. A fantastic place for on-line book and toy shopping. 
  • Toys in Babeland The on-line home of Seattle and New York´s premiere erotic boutique. Women owned and operated! 
  • Kink Aware Professionals A fantastic site for finding a kink friendly psychotherapist, social worker, pastor, doctor, chiropractor, acupuncturist, massage therapist, lawyer, accountant or computer professional! Features international listings.


These are the women who use Maison de la Maîtresse. I enjoy playing with all of them, and highly recommend them as individuals.

Josephine Drake

Penelope Barber

Natasha Strange

Liliane Hunt

Violette Thorngate

Kendra Knight

Katja Starkova

Miss Evangeline Grey

In New York City, I can't speak highly enough about the whip-smart, beautiful, and talented Mistress Troy Orleans. Her studio is my favorite place to play in the City.

Also in Manhattan, Mistress Alex is stunning, devious, and not to be trifled with (and has one of my favorite Twitter feeds).

In Chicago, I simply adore Mistress Crimson's intelligence and wicked charm.

In Los Angeles, I highly recommend a visit to Mistress Justine Cross at Dungeon West, as well as time spent with the lovely and captivating Miss Kaila Yi.

I also recommend the Eros Guide for links to BDSM providers around the United States, United Kingdom, and Canada, as well as Max Fisch for excellent discussion, links, and news of Mistress travels.